Cf. liberal norms on race/cultural identity - we accept that it's an issue of variable importance to different people, it's considered polite to be non-dismissive when someone *does* bring it up but not to be intrusive if they don't, some people are obviously 'read' but others are ambiguous, it's impolite to make assumptions based on you…
Cf. liberal norms on race/cultural identity - we accept that it's an issue of variable importance to different people, it's considered polite to be non-dismissive when someone *does* bring it up but not to be intrusive if they don't, some people are obviously 'read' but others are ambiguous, it's impolite to make assumptions based on your own preconceptions, if you're unsure allowing maximal leeway is the way to go. And actively drawing attention to / strengthening divisions along those lines (except where wholly relevant) is generally to be uncomfortable or worse to all involved including the marginalised party.
Cf. liberal norms on race/cultural identity - we accept that it's an issue of variable importance to different people, it's considered polite to be non-dismissive when someone *does* bring it up but not to be intrusive if they don't, some people are obviously 'read' but others are ambiguous, it's impolite to make assumptions based on your own preconceptions, if you're unsure allowing maximal leeway is the way to go. And actively drawing attention to / strengthening divisions along those lines (except where wholly relevant) is generally to be uncomfortable or worse to all involved including the marginalised party.